Have The Life You Want

Four months into 2013 and the proverbial is still hitting the fan...
Just last week: my car blew its air con, all my remotes stopped working, (car alarm, front gate, and work gate) my Ubuntu computer operating system version expired, requiring an obligatory and lengthy process of familiarising myself with a totally new and unfamiliar desktop... and my phone, freshly liberated from its contract, would NOT connect to the internet.

I'm not a hippy (any more) but I have to ask: am I the only one experiencing spontaneous failure of my reality-matrix accessing hardware? And is it coincidental, or is this shift storm part of "The Whole 2012 Thing?"

Not being a hippy any more means that I now require scientific proof, or sufficient anecdotal evidence, for my belief to adhere to new knowledge, but I'm not above accepting common sense. According to NASA, the Sun is currently enduring the most active section of its 11 year solar flare cycle, occasionally projecting coronal mass ejections (gargantuan blasts of magnetic solar matter) into space. Since we are family, some of these huge magnetic blobs shoot strait over our heads, momentarily engulf our planet, and rattle off into infinite space. Because of the Earth's protective magnetic field and higher atmospheric layers, nothing dramatic occurs visually, apart from a noticeably more fantastic Aurora at the poles. But what do you think would happen to your cell phone reception if you left your phone in the path of a sustained magnetic blast such as an electro magnetic pulse? 

Actually, we already know what will happen to your cell phone reception, because EMPs are actual weapons, used for the cunning application of taking out the opponents electrical systems... and their cell phones, their gate remotes, work and home, as well as their Google Contacts to Blackberry sync options. The enemy is no longer able to chat on face book, send bulk emails, blip bip their BMWs, connect to whats app, or share pics via bb. 

If solar flares are to EMPs, as tsunamis are to knocking over a cup of tea, what effect is this heightened solar activity really having on our planet?

NASA has adopted a cautious attitude of nonchalant condescension, clearly attempting to avoid the potential for panic and sensationalism inherent in the idea that a gigantic and volatile mass of nuclear reactions, only 8 light-minutes away from our planet, is throwing stuff at us. NASA plays the whole thing down rather. They're going with "Its really quite technical, not as bad as it sounds, nothing to see here folks."
Albert Einstein said "God does not play with dice", and I do not believe in coincidence. When you have to get out of your car 4 times a day to open your so called "remote" operated gates, and wander around the entrance to your securely shut premises in which you live or work, pushing and waving your remote like a metal detector, you may be tempted to ask questions.

My first question is: What should I do when nothing works?
My second question is: How am I supposed to know?

This concludes my questions. Let us proceed with philosophy. Tao Master Lau Tsu is famous for writing: 
"Before enlightenment, sweep the floor. 
After enlightenment, sweep the floor." 

Perhaps his annoyingly simple, irresistibly charming, Yoda-inspiring wisdom can be appropriated to mean: When your remote is broken, get a new remote?
This kind of thing can really throw a spanner in the works if you let it get to you. Its easy to ask the wrong questions:
Why is everything going wrong? 
Why is life giving me broken plates instead of more money?
Should I stop what I am doing? Am I doing it wrong? 

The car in which you are travelling towards the life of your dreams, slowly comes to a halt at the side of the road in the middle of the desert. There is plenty of petrol, but the driver is looking at the map, lost or procrastinating, and the supplies will only last a few more days. It is imperative that this driver commit to a decision and keep driving, because this car could be stuck for a very long time, and if the supplies run out, the driver may have to get out and walk.

What IS he talking about?

The car symbolises the force that moves you forward, could be your job, your passion, your Love, your Xbox... If you set your driving force (car) in the right direction, (toward your dream) you will arrive.

So, this is all very romantic, but when life happens, and things go wrong all at once, and we start to doubt our direction, then we stop moving toward our goal, and we start stagnating. In this dream metaphor, we would get out of the car, dig a hole in the sand next to the road for no particular reason, put out the camping chairs, crack open a beer, and convince ourselves that its much better to live here instead of chasing after wild imaginings, and we should let go of the foolish idea that we could ever reach our dreams. Conveniently for this metaphor, there are occasional whooshes of other cars speeding past, confident in their direction and purpose, as well as plenty of other drivers that have also pulled over and dug holes in the sand. 

If you are a sand hole camper and you want to get back on the road to your dreams, I have just the thing for you:

New from the NBSR Workshop Series:

Have The Life You Want

This workshop takes a practical approach to your individual situation and shows you how to reverse-engineer your dream, bringing your dream to you instead of you having to chase it. Reverse-engineering is a fantastic, highly successful approach to getting something you don't have, because it takes an existing model of what you want and de-constructs it to find out how it works. Imagine you found a crashed flying saucer on the beach. (It's empty, the aliens had ejector seats.) If your sister's baby-sitter's dad were a rocket scientist, you could take him your find and ask him to tell you how it works, so you could mass produce flying saucers in China and make pot loads of money as the owner of the worlds first low-flying anti-gravity car company. He would take the flying saucer apart with tiny screw drivers, figure out how anti-gravity works, tell you he doesn’t know, and sell the design for pot loads of money on e-bay. 

Your sister's baby-sitters dad aside, we can use reverse-engineering on our own dreams, and this workshop tells you how.

Whether this proverbial storm turns out to be solar, cosmic, karmic, or coincidental, I need access to my reality matrix in order to reach my dream, and I need hardware to do that, so I replaced my remotes, booked the car in for the air con job on Thursday, called Vodacom and got reconnected, and sat square-eyed for the last week configuring Ubuntu and sucky Unity. And even though I whined about how long it took for me to find the Gnome option (better), and how many complications, mistakes, and do-overs there were, and why me I don't have time for this, it feels good to know that this matrix access hardware is good for another few years. Who knows, maybe some of it will last until the next proverbial storm in 2024 :)

If you would like more information about the Have The Life You Want workshop, click here to be teleported to the NBSR Hypnotherapy website for details. I look forward to meeting you at the workshop :)

Meditation and Motivation for Anxiety and Depression

Take a deeeep breath...
And let it ouuuut.

Can you imagine being told anything more infuriating when you are feeling anxious?

Hold my breath??? Are you TRYING to give me a heart attack?? I'd like to see YOU relax and take a deep breath when YOUR chest feels like its about to explode!

Depression is'nt any easier. Picture a football coach giving his best "Go Get Em" prep talk to a sofa inhabited by a droopy figure who feels like a ghost, and you have a pretty good idea.

Pills work, we like pills. They're easy, you don't have to take any more responsibility than remembering to take them, they're socially acceptable, and they were prescribed (one hopes) by "The Doctor".

What could possibly be wrong?

For readers familiar with the chain of events that occurs when using pharmaceuticals, the irony is clear:

Pills have side effects.

Sleeping may seem unimportant to you during a time of pressure and head spinning panic attacks or debilitating depression, but in retrospect, William Dement's well known insomnia research in the 1960s may seem startlingly resonant. Dement showed that prolonged lack of sleep causes both anxiety and depression.

Other side effects meander across a vast field of dysfunctional behaviour, and yet, this is what we do. The more varying the side effects, the more pills are required to bring your deliriously confused body back to "NORMAL". Its like the song about the old lady who swallowed a fly: "She swallowed a spider to catch the fly, she swallowed a bird to catch the spider, she swallowed a cat to catch the bird, she swallowed a dog to catch the cat, she swallowed a horse to catch the dog...

Is this normal? Is this sane? Really?

We can understand the cause of anxiety and depression very simply, by identifying what is missing. If you have anxiety, relaxation is missing. If you have depression, motivation is missing.

Within these two over-simplified statements, there exists enough complexity to spend several years talking to a therapist, quantifying which event in the past caused each repercussion in the present. Let's assume you spent 18 months working it all out. Where would you be? Exactly where you are now with one major change: you can now tell your story, your history, your past. Do you have the peace of mind that you started out searching for? Have you achieved your most accessible life goal?

This myth: "The key to your future is understanding your past" is the reason for so much stagnation, suffering, and entrapment. How can you see where you are going by looking backwards??! Does'nt that seem a little, well, backward?

When is it time to leave pseudo-profound anonymous sayings in the Pick n' Pay diaries where we found them, and listen to real people who are actually doing what we want to do, and living the lives that we want to live? There are people who are doing this right now.

Every author of a "How To Be Brilliant And Successful Like Me" book has one thing in common: they left their past in the past, let bygones be bygones, planned the goal they wanted, and went after it with every spanner they had!

It is my reward to present to you:

Meditation and Motivation for

Anxiety and Depression

The 1 Hour Workshop

Workshop Outline:

Motivation For Depression

• What Do You Really Want?
• Passion, Logic, and Goals
• How To Climb Up, One Step At A Time

Meditation for Anxiety

• When Last Did You Relax?
• Knowing Your Mind
• Choosing Your Thoughts

Duration: 1 hour
Cost: R100 (includes printed notes)
Full details and bookings: www.nbsr.co.za/events
NBSR treatment concessions for workshop attendees: www.nbsr.co.za/guarantee

Anxiety and depression may seem like polar opposites, but they are actually two sides of the same coin. One is very rarely present without the other. You do not have to be officially diagnosed to suffer with anxiety or depression, its just a feeling of being outdone, defeated, disappointed, wanting more out of life, or feeling that your goals are out of reach, or that sometimes things seem a little overwhelming and you feel like you want to get off the carousel, or you feel you need a vacation shortly after returning from one.

After studying human behaviour for many years, and becoming an International Hypnotherapist and Stress Consultant, I founded Neuro-Behavioural Sound Reprogramming in 2005, to address behavioural problems and life challenges holistically. NBSR uses a combination of therapeutic techniques including behavioural analysis, hypnotherapy, and common sense, to transform your challenge into a spiritual, emotional, and physical goal attainment.

I look forward to sharing this dynamic and thorough system of personal transformation and self-empowerment with you. Feel free to brows the testimonials on the website, and get an idea about what I do, or you can email me directly at www.nbsr.co.za/contact
Andrew Wilding

12 Self Hypnosis Tips To Accomplish Your New Years Resolutions

Most people have given up on all of this. What's different about New Year? Why should this be a good time to set resolutions? Even if the change of the year was somehow auspicious, writing a list of resolutions does'nt make them happen, so why bother?

And in this way, we carry on with life according to homoeostasis, and nothing changes except that the idea that nothing changes sets deeper and deeper into the subconscious mind. "Change is hard. It's too much hard work! Life is hard enough without having to do more hard stuff. Its probably better just to leave things be" says the subconscious mind after this conditioning.

I find the new year (or are we calling it the new age now?) as good a time as any to take a perspective look at what has happened, what is happening, and what I would like to happen. Its auspicious for me because I say it is. When I think of how much time in total I spent last year wishing things were different, its clear to me that I am certainly not better off just leaving things be, and fortunately, because of my line of work, I am able to do something about it :)

Writing a list of resolutions, you can light it, send the smoke up the chimney, and wait for Father Christmas to bring you a Lamborghini, but there is also another way:

May I present to you 

12 Self Hypnosis Tips

To Accomplish Your

New Years Resolutions

1

Make a list! Go on, be a sport! Give yourself a break! And don't be mean, ask for what you really want. It can be 50 things, or 1 thing. But remember, Father Christmas was your first option, in this option there is only one person who is going to make it happen: YOU ;) 

2

For each goal on your list, write a step by step description of the fastest possible way you can imagine, for you to achieve your goal. Some of these steps will involve steps within steps. You must quantify everything that you think needs to be done. This list will change all the time. Keep it somewhere accessible so you can update it each time you accomplish another step towards your goal, or each time the plan changes.

3

Prioritise your list from easiest to hardest. Starting with the easiest goal gives you a great confidence kick when you accomplish it, and gives you the traction to stick with the longer, tougher goals.

4

Set aside a certain time every day, or every week, for you to do the donkey work on accomplishing the goal you have chosen to start with. Diaries it! In addition to your "workshop time", you will also need to set aside 10 to 15 minutes each night for Self Hypnosis. You have to get done what needs to get done, and this takes time, but if you stop here, nothing will happen, because nobody wants to be a donkey! 

(That's why there are 12 Tips :)) ...

5

Write a visual affirmation of one or two sentences for each of your goals, starting with the easiest goal to accomplish, and moving down the list to the hardest. Write about what each goal looks like, and how you will look when you have it, or when you are doing it. Word the affirmation as if you have already achieved it.

E.g. I am driving my yellow Lamborghini Gallardo with gunmetal interior down a boulevard lined with palm trees.

6

Write an emotional affirmation of one or two sentences for each of your goals, starting with the easiest goal to accomplish, and moving down the list to the hardest. Write about what this goal feels like for you emotionally, as if you already have it.

E.g. I love this car! I feel exhilarated and yet completely comfortable in this seat. This feels like the car I should have been driving all along!

7

Locate the Voice Notes Recorder on your phone, and record the visual and emotional affirmation of the easiest goal, on the same take. (Or you can write this on a postit note and place it where you can easily learn your affirmation.)

E.g.  I am driving my yellow Lamborghini Gallardo with gunmetal interior down a boulevard lined with palm trees. I love this car! I feel exhilarated and yet completely comfortable in this seat. This feels like the car I should have been driving all along!

8

Learn by heart your complete affirmation to your first (easiest) goal. If you have recorded it on your phone, play it over and over, and say it while its playing, until you can say it without the recording. If you are reading it off a postit, well... just learn it! 

(One good session will be enough for you to by heart your affirmation.)

9

Throughout your day, say your complete affirmation to yourself, silently in your mind or out loud, however feels more powerful for you. You can do this while driving, showering, exercising, any time you can focus on this particular goal. Having a set time, like showering or at the gym, helps to assure that you will do this every day.

10

Every night, take 10 to 15 minutes before going to sleep for your Self Hypnosis session. Prepare by relaxing in any way you know. If you know Yoga, or a meditation technique, or if you have a relaxation CD, or if you pray every night, do your Self Hypnosis session after everything. Make it the last thing, so that your mind can take your Self Hypnosis experience directly into subconscious when you sleep. Take a minimum of 5 minutes to relax. If you don't know any techniques, you can use this Yoga relaxation: 

Sit comfortably with a cushion for your lower back, remind yourself that the day is over, relax your shoulders. Listen your heartbeat, observe how the rhythms of your heart and your breath synchronise. 

[Do this for 5 Minutes]

11

Have your eyes closed so that you can visualise or imagine more easily, and begin with your visual affirmation only, repeating it over and over in your mind. Vary the speed, there's no hurry. Enjoy the visual aspect of your imagination. Its not important that you can picture it, not everyone can visualise. Just imagine what it looks like. The subconscious mind can not tell the difference between what is real and what is imagined!

[Do this for 5 Minutes]

12

Finally, use your emotional affirmation, and let yourself imagine the emotions that you describe. Repeating only the emotional aspect of your affirmation, let those positive feelings build inside you. If you notice any negative emotion like sadness, hopelessness, jealousy etc, use your affirmation to focus on the positive emotion, that's what its for. Your positive affirmation keeps your mind focussed on positive emotion, and that's the message that goes into your subconscious, because your subconscious mind does not know the difference between what is real and what is imagined!

And of course, when you accomplish your goal, you pick the next one off the list! Its awesome! Don't forget to do the donkey work... I would love to hear about your experiences with these 12 Self Hypnosis Tips, so please leave your comments, or email me your questions. I can assure you that this method works because I use it myself, for manifesting everything from my camera to my relationship! 

(Bear in mind that some goals take a little longer than others!!!)

Remember to keep your affirmations positive, because your subconscious mind absorbs everything, and here's to an outstanding year ahead!

Copywrite 11/1/2013 Andrew Wilding